when you love me too

When you love me too (Behind the song)

What happens when the falling in love is not simultaneous or not on the same level of intensity. It is there but it doesn’t feel equal even after some years.  There are so many factors involved that may make one not as head over heels. One might be more reserved than the other due to upbringing. The world around them may have had an effect as Matthew 24:12 states, “and because of the increasing of lawlessness, the love of the greater number will grow cold”.  But regardless of the reasons, how can one tighten up the gap.  First Proverbs 17:17 says, “A true friend shows love at all times And is a brother who is born for times of distress.” So, endeavor to always show love. Ask yourself, is what I am going to do or say loving and kind, and stop yourself if it is not. Ascertain what your partner needs, especially in times of distress and be there to help in every way possible. Second, give to your partner what is needed, a wife needs genuine unselfish love, and a husband needs especially respect for his work and efforts. Give these things and your love will grow in its intensity. Finally work at putting into practice these words at 1 Corinthians13:4-8, “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It  does not brag, does not get puffed up,  does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury.  It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” Keep these words in front of you constantly and make an effort each day to put into practice one of these actions of love. Ask yourself how can I improve on this action. Then you will find your partner loving you with the intensity you longed for. But realize that that you are changing a pattern of behavior and just as it took some time to develop the present negative patterns it will take time for your partner to recognize this new pattern. You will need patience and persistence. Major changes take time and the actions and viewpoint of your partner may take time to see the new you. If your partner is not an evil abuser and a bully, then beautiful changes will happen if you do not give up.